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35岁大厂程序员上岸武汉体制内,收入从百万年薪锐减到十几万后,妻子嫌弃他没上进心.网友:这种老公,离!

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35岁大厂程序员上岸武汉体制内,收入从百万年薪锐减到十几万后,妻子嫌弃他没上进心.网友:这种老公,离!

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刚看到个贴子，说的是35岁的大厂程序员，年薪百万时没少拼命，后来选择上岸武汉体制内，收入一下掉到十几万，结果妻子开始嫌他没上进心。网友更狠，直接一句：这种老公，离。

程序员选择体制内，说白了是用高收入换稳定、换确定性，尤其35岁这个节点，谁心里不打鼓？但问题在于，这种选择如果只是一方的“理性规划”，另一方却还活在“巅峰叙事”里，那矛盾迟早要爆。

网友回帖我也看了，有人站老婆，说落差太大；也有人替男方不值，说身体和风险都被忽略了。我的看法是，婚姻不是股票，不能只盯着最高点。

不过话说回来，重大转向前，沟通真的很重要。把日子过稳，本身也是一种上进。

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